Honor is a private matter within; it’s an idea, and every man has his own version of it.  — Becket

Every person has to answer to themselves before they answer to others.  I’ve found that good people are harder on themselves than others are, and that those I don’t respect tend to reverse that.  A true oxygen thief displays no personal honor or morals, yet still expects the rest of us to treat them with respect and charity.  The walking saints I’ve known can easily list their own deficiencies, while not being able to enumerate those of their neighbors.